Category: Featured

Sep 18

How We Choose Who To Love

       When I was studying at a psychoanalytic institute many years ago I heard the saying “we all marry parts of our mother and father”. At the time being a single man I thought this idea was a bit extreme. Now after 30 years of treating couples and from my own personal experience I can say it is not so farfetched. Of course it stands to reason that we are attracted to what is familiar, ...
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Sep 16

How to Cope with Heated Conflict!

    We all encounter people who are irrational. We are all are irrational due to life circumstances on occasion. If you lose a night’s sleep due to the flu, having to get up in the middle of the night to soothe a crying child, or work too many hours you can feel depleted and your tolerance is low. This kind of irrationality is common and shouldn’t be taken very seriously.      A second type of irrationality ...
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Sep 11

Two kinds of Selfishness

In this morning’s group session one of our members abruptly announced he was going to take a three month trip across country with his wife and would be leaving group. Members were astounded as we have a guideline that when someone is going to leave they pick a date, and give advanced notice so we can go through a compete process of saying goodbye. This entails giving and receiving direct feedback, settling any leftover conflicts ...
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Sep 8

Burning The Quran is Burning The Heart of Humanity

     A Texas minister is advocating and planning the burning of the Quran, the Muslim holy book, as a gesture to indicate his and his congregation’s intolerance toward what he believes is Muslim violence propagated by this book and Muslim theology.     I am not a theologian so I’m not representing myself as an expert in terms of the books contents but I did read the Quran last summer as I wanted to understand its meaning ...
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Sep 6

How Can You Change A Negative View Of Life?

I try to teach my clients and those close to me that negativity is a learned perspective. When we are growing up we are all exposed to views of the world that are not objective or reasonable. Anthony, one of my group clients grew up with parents from two different countries who met in Europe during the last world war. Even though they have been living in the United States for over 50 years they ...
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Sep 6

Can You Accept Acts of Grace?

Can you accept acts of Grace?       I was cycling the other day, near our summer home along the beautiful coast of Maine with a wonderful long time friend. As we passed thunderous waves he turned to me and said, “You work so hard you have earned this, I’m so glad for you”. He was surprised that I disagreed that I “had earned this” and immediately thought I was being self critical. He was mistaken ...
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TURN ON YOUR INNER LIGHT RADIO SHOW
Aug 9

TURN ON YOUR INNER LIGHT RADIO SHOW

Hosted by Debbie Mandel, this mind/body wellness show airs every Tuesday evening from 7:00pm to 7:30pm on WGBB 1240AM in Long Island. In order to listen to past shows using efficient "streaming" (no download delay time) you will need the RealOne Player a free version is available from Real Networks. THIS WEEK'S SHOW: July 27, 2010 Show - Arthur Ciaramicolli, Ph.D, a clinical psychologist, a former Harvard Medical School instructor and the author of The ...
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Jul 14

Ultimate Intimacy: The Elusive Challenge

       I have been a practicing clinical psychologist for many years and in that time I have seen clients from many countries and all walks of life. Despite their diverse backgrounds if I were asked what is the one common, elusive aspect of life that all humans, regardless of circumstance long for I would have to say sustained intimacy.          Most people can create intimacy initially but few are able to sustain rich intimacy with a ...
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Jul 2

Coaching or Psychotherapy? Which is right for you?

       In recent weeks I have had several clients ask me what the difference is between executive coaching, psychotherapy, positive psychology coaching, and supportive psychotherapy. In general many people don’t know the difference between coaching and therapy and find it difficult to decide who to call to successfully reach their goals.      Due to limited space I cannot describe the differences among these modalities in detail but let me outline a few key distinctions that may ...
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Jun 30

The Downward Trend

Feeling Overwhelmed, Exhaustion and Being Overweight Go Hand in Hand – By John Allen Mollenhauer Why are so many people tired, stressed and overweight? It seems the majority of people have a motivation problem; overeating and lack of exercise are implicated as the causes of the overweight condition. You could say we are overweight because we eat too much and live sedentary lives and that both are causes of obesity and ...
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